Low self-image

Low self-image

What is it and how to deal with it

Psychologists often turn to a person’s self-image, which affects the quality of his life. Every person lives the way he allows himself. And it already depends on what self-assessment a person has. Low self-esteem becomes the most disastrous.

Psychologists often turn to a person’s self-image, which affects the quality of his life. Every person lives the way he allows himself. And it already depends on what self-assessment a person has. Low self-esteem becomes the most disastrous.

Self-image is self-assessment. How do you rate:

  • Your knowledge and experience
  • Skills
  • Desires and goals
  • Potential

What do you think you are capable of? Depending on how a person evaluates himself, he lives better or worse.

A person with low self-esteem is inclined to give up his desires, not to be guided by his own opinion and remain helpless in any situation. In many ways, in the development of self-esteem, parents of a person and society as a whole have played. Many people are aware of such situations when they tried to please, but they did not succeed. Unfortunately, there is a program in a society that one should deserve recognition, and not just receive from those who give it. Many people try to earn love and respect for themselves, not realizing that they can not do this.

Low self-image – what is it?

Low self-image – it is an underestimation of their qualities, skills and abilities, their own potential. All this affects the fact that a person refuses to solve his problems, does not believe in himself (self-doubt develops), does not seek to achieve his goals (since he is convinced in advance that he will not achieve anything).

In other words, a person prefers to do nothing, because he is afraid of:

  • Condemning opinions.
  • Achieve negative results.
  • The need to admit your mistakes and even correct them.

It is easier for a person with low self-esteem to sit and do nothing, rather than act, face difficulties and be responsible for the results.

Low self-image – reasons

Psychologists try to look for all the reasons for low self-image in childhood. Usually, it is then that predisposition or immediate low self-esteem is formed. How?

  • On the example of their own parents, when a child sees that his mom and dad also have low self-esteem: they sacrifice themselves all the time, refuse everything, remain helpless, etc. The child simply copies the behavior of his parents.
  • Guilt when parents begin to raise their child. Often they try to make him feel guilty for their actions. Instead of analyzing what is happening and together assessing the expediency of actions, parents simply begin to negatively assess the actions of the child.
  • Making a child bad. The child itself is full, normal and adequate. Just parents begin to educate him. When a child does something that does not agree with the opinion of the parents, they begin to call him, punish him, and so on. Name-calling underestimates the child’s assessment of himself (he begins to evaluate himself negatively). The punishments tell the child that he did a bad thing, after which he simply begins to be afraid to take actions in order not to do a bad deed again.
  • Comparing a child with other children. This is a frequent reception of parents who wish to give their child certain aspirations to achieve something. However, the child may not perceive the words of his parents. If parents are unhappy with their child, they tell him that he is bad, underdeveloped, and this is what they demonstrate by the admiration of other children.
  • The failure of the child’s individuality. When parents do not hear the desires of the child, do not perceive him as an individual person, they underestimate his importance. Setting goals for a child is not his, but his own. When the parents themselves have not achieved something, they try to achieve it through their children. Then they begin to set goals and requirements that the baby must meet. Otherwise, they punish him and do not like.
  • External characteristics. Even in children, self-esteem may fall due to defects and unattractive appearance.
  • Authoritarian parents who simply deprive children of initiative and will. In this case, the children learn to just go with the flow and do not strive for anything.
  • Hard religious education.
  • Hard beliefs and moral values.
  • Features of the nature of the child.
  • Evaluating yourself through material goods. If parents are constantly concerned about how much material status they have, then the child also begins to evaluate himself from the position of how much money or what model of gadget he has.

Signs of low self-image

Low self-image can manifest itself in the following symptoms:

  • Dodging praise. A person feels that he is not worthy of praise, therefore he is trying to bring many arguments of his position.
  • Indecision. A person is afraid to face a choice, because he will have to be responsible for the results.
  • Increased vigilance. A person tries to notice the slightest evidence that he is not loved, therefore he becomes attentive. Inability to focus on the present tense. A person often draws attention to what the past experiences or worries about the future.
  • Humiliation. A person is convinced of his own insignificance and that his fate depends on other people.
  • Humility.
  • Comparing yourself. A person is not sure that he is correct, full-fledged and worthy, therefore he is constantly trying to find evidence or a refutation of this
  • Comparing, the individual always sees everything good in others, and in himself only bad. Pretense Inability to understand the height of their goals. A person prefers to set small goals, just to be sure of their attainability.
  • The ban on joy.

What to do with low self-image?

Low self-image is not an innate quality, but only a belief in which a person believes. Therefore, with low self-esteem, you need to perform such actions that refute it:

  • Achieve goals and celebrate it.
  • See for themselves the positive qualities and skills and do not forget about them.
  • Communicate with people who see positive sides in you.
  • Engage in self-improvement to be sure of your abilities.
  • Do not blame yourself for failure.
  • Generally, rethink your attitude toward trouble.
  • Do not compare yourself with anyone.
  • Compare yourself only with yourself, what you were before. And other people will always seem as you want them to be.

How to deal with low self-image?

Compare yourself to improve. Love yourself, appreciate and respect. Do not pay attention to the words of people when they compare you with someone. You do not have to like everyone, be better than someone and become as other people want you to be. However, use the comparison of yourself to become better, better, more perfect for yourself.

Here you live, enjoy life, every day is similar to the previous one. And you understand that you need to change something, develop, improve yourself in something. Compare yourself with other people whose persona and whose lifestyle you are interested in. Maybe someone is prettier than you, richer, happier. Compare yourself with these people, then highlight what they have, but not you. Take care of what you would like to have in yourself.

Why do you need to compare yourself with other people? In order to know what to improve in yourself. Living in his own world, a person does not seem to notice other aspects of life. A woman can already consider herself beautiful and perfect until she meets another beautiful lady who, in comparison with her, will be more beautiful and attractive. Yes, a woman is beautiful in itself, but she may not have what another woman has — charm, for example. And comparing herself to another person, a woman can now take up the development in herself of what she did not have before.

Living in his own world, a person can already be considered rich, with 100 dollars in his pocket. But if a person appears in his path who has more money in his pocket, then there is a desire to become the same as he. Man begins to develop, because his former way of life is not as good as the one he could live with.

Do not pay attention to when people compare you with someone. No one has the right to compare other people with each other. But sometimes compare yourself with other people so that your life becomes better and you are happy with it. Compare yourself to improve. Seeing in another person what you would like to have yourself, do not envy, but use this understanding with the goal of enjoying these benefits yourself that you like.


Self-image depends on a person who looks at himself and gives himself a certain assessment of all his qualities and skills. To increase your self-esteem, you just need to start adequately assessing yourself and calmly perceive all your shortcomings.